I remember growing up and playing “house” with my siblings: playing mom and dad, getting dolls ready for church or feeding them meals, taking them out to run errands or work in the yard. From a kid’s perspective, being a parent is easy! Kids practice what they know, and our household was a traditional one. We saw that mom did chores during the day, fed meals to the children and went grocery shopping while Dad went to work, ate supper, read the newspaper and helped get kids ready for bed.
Little do you know as a child what else is going on in your family! Children cannot begin to understand the full responsibility of parenting and providing for a family.
When my first child was born, I realized just how much my parents really loved me. That first experience of truly unconditional love is there the moment your baby is put into your arms.
My husband and I quickly realized after an hour or two of birth, that this baby is our responsibility! We need to change her, feed her, bathe her, and teach this tiny little person all she needs to know to succeed on her own. It is truly an overwhelming feeling and as many people say, your baby doesn’t come with a manual, and my personality sometimes wishes that it would!
As so many other parents do, I turn to books and podcasts to learn more about parenting, children and living a well-balanced life for myself as well. It’s nice to get someone else’s perspective; also it helps you feel like you’re not alone when things don’t go according to plan. Some of the recent books that I have read or am in the process of reading are:Recipe for Play: https://www.amazon.com/Recipes-Play-Creative-Activities-Imaginations-ebook/dp/B00NAJ01JS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1493173209&sr=8-1&keywords=recipe+for+play
I haven’t started this book yet, but I have browsed through it. My kids took some of the ideas for play and applied them. It offered great entertainment for an afternoon or two. I got it on my Kindle Phone App so I can quickly pull it up to find things to do when I run out of ideas!
5 Love Languages of Children: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Children-Secret-Effectively-ebook/dp/B01BXPWGX4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1493173144&sr=8-1&keywords=5+love+languages+of+children
Have you ever read the 5 Love Languages for an adult? This book applies some of the same concepts but towards your child instead. It is really interesting to read and pick out what language your kid responds to the most and what they naturally want from you. One child may need an extra hug or quick back scratch throughout the day whereas another needs extra one-on-one conversations with mom or dad.
This book is a pretty easy read. I am not completely sold on it but it did open my eyes to the dynamics of the different energy types in my family. My energy type is different than some family members. Half of us tend to wake up and go while the other half of my family likes to ease into the day. This can make school mornings challenging, or anything that might have a firm timeline on departure, which adds tension or stress to my day! I am not completely sold on there being one dominant energy type for each kid but I will definitely continue diving into this subject area and see what else I can grab from it.
How to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk. https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1493173247&sr=8-1
This book was a good read, but took some time for me to get through. It has a combination of skills you can practice as well as thought process and reasoning. Definitely a great read for a parent or teacher. In the end, I found you hardly have to prompt a kid and they will spill the beans, problem solve on their own and be their own biggest cheerleader. Will read this book again and again when I am struggling to listen or get my kids to listen.